The time has come where you two are together for good and its time for your first vacation together, well now what?! It is one of the most stressful things you will end up doing, up on the stress list with moving, childbirth and death. Now, not wanting to scare you off with that, it’s stressful in a sort of good way, like when you want to make sure everything is perfect and there’s no mishaps. Expectations will be high, you both will be having some sudden doubts on the decisions you two made on the subject and once you get to where you two are going there will be only the two of you to focus on. You will be surprised just how fast it will turn into the perfect vacation the two of you will probably ever have, unless you do it again of course, but it’s really up to you two just where the vacation goes, it may end up being the worse if you two make it so. Being together alone in some foreign place will polarize the thoughts and behaviors. It can easily put the spot light on the smallest worrying traits you and your partner has and it will put every fine detail into the light of how well you can plan things.
Once you two actually check into where ever it is that you’re staying, this is when you two will find out just how you two behave as a couple on their own. You may want to think the night will be full of ‘tangoing’ as you two lay on the beach at night with some wine, or maybe you two will get flight sickness or car sickness and spend the time sick! Maybe you two will enjoy tans or sightseeing, but no matter what, if done right you and your partners love and romance will blossom stronger than ever.
You need to remember that a great relationship comes from planning together, some adjustments as you go on, tons and tons of compromising and a great sense of humor. Do all that and you will be sure to come out with a successful relationship. Relationships ride on compromising together at all times, if you don’t that leads to fights, you don’t want fights. But if all fails, its best to fail now then after you get married.
So here are some ways you can lower your stress levels, follow the tips and you should be fine.
1. The first vacation together would be better is it is just an extended weekend in another city, explore, see new cultures and dine on new foods.
2. When you two decided on a place for your first vacation you need to make sure its a group effort, don’t decide for your partner, you need to do it together to keep it fun.
3. Don’t rush having a vacation together so soon. You need to time it just right, spending a vacation together after the first date is dumb. Understand what I’m saying?
4. Keep your expectations at a realistic level in advance of the vacation. Don’t expect a few days of heaven, you will only be disappointed .
5. Got to make sure you are good at tolerating things and are open to suggestions and compromising.
6. Remember that a vacation is to relax, and that includes when you are arranging it.
7. The final destination needs to be one that you are both very comfortable with. A one sided vacation will end in disaster.
8. Once again, you need to make sure you don’t go on vacation too soon after meeting, you need to be pre used to the person you are going to be spending this time with, and know for sure its someone you want to spend the money on.
9. Before leaving, make sure you two talk in large amounts. It ensures you two are on the same page and at the right understanding levels.
10. Make sure you keep up with your niceness and compliments after the vacation as well, being someone else on the trip will turn your partner off. Stay yourself.
11. Make sure you are well packed personally and make sure you are well prepared. Don’t expect your partner to take care of everything.
12. Make sure the room you book has a double bed, not twin beds.
13. You need to make sure you know SOMETHING about the destination before setting everything up, making sure you can surprise your partner is important.
14. Make sure you two talk enough to reveal any doubts your partner may have, and reassure them through the whole thing.
15. When on vacation make sure you show each other how much you care for each other, the rest of the world doesn’t matter when on vacation.
