Here is a list I made for those getting ready to go on their date. Here are things you should keep in mind and do. Just make sure no matter what it is, don’t over do it (unless it’s being nice or a gentleman). Remember them, they will do you some good.
1. When you go out to date, you need to make sure you keeps things in perspective. It’s only a date boys and girls, not like your life depends on it or something, no matter what you may think. It’s only a date, yeah you don’t want to screw it up but don’t overdue it either.
2. You need to give yourself enough time to get ready. When you decide to get ready, don’t make it ten minutes before the date time, give yourself time to shower and think of things and then get ready, a speedy ready is a sloppy ready.
3. You need to make at least a small effort to look nice, don’t appear looking like a hobo (no offense to the hobos reading this, honestly). Not only will that give a bad vibe but come on.. would you really want to look like that? You also need to make sure you know ahead of time what you will be wearing, don’t chose at the last minute. Never rush on a date.
4. Before you go on a date play some nice music that will get you in a great mood. Feeling energized and great is an important asset to have on your date. And maybe do some good deeds to mellow you out, let a sibling borrow something or if you’re an adult maybe figure something out that can get you in a mellow mood. Feeling good and nice is important.
5. No matter where you are going you need to make sure you know for sure where you are going and what time you need to be there. When you know that, plan ahead what time you will start getting ready. Then make sure you know how you are going to get there and how you plan on getting back, if you don’t drive, book a cab. Never accept a ride home from your date.
6. If you are going to make yourself smell good, go with quality aftershaves, colognes and perfumes only. Make sure you don’t over do it, you need to really make sure you don’t. Sure YOUR nostrils may not be able to smell your half bottle of your cologne or perfume that you decided to bathe in, but I can assure you, your date will smell it, and may not be able to see you very well through your vapor cloud of smells. This goes for both genders, the stuff is strong, use little bits.
7. You need to give yourself some time to think of what you two will be talking about on the date, as well as what things you would like to avoid. Remember, don’t make it an interview, it should never feel like an interview, putting someone in that situation is a bad thing. However some of the same rules apply, it’s still not. Preparation is very important.
8. This one is mainly for women, but men should too just in case. You should always tell a good friend or family member where you are going on your date, who you are going with and make sure you carry a cell phone and always follow all the safe dating rules that apply for dates. It’s up to you to make sure your safety is kept safe. It’s your responsibility and no one elses, if you are foolish with it, expect nothing good to come of it, ever. Keep your head on straight.
Pre-Date Preparation Rules, Part II
Here are some more tips from the list we started to discuss earlier about what you should bear in mind while getting ready for your date. Don’t forget to check part I here.
9. Although you don’t want the woman to think your rich or you’re some player, you should make sure your shoes are sparkling or just clean. You should also make sure you remembered accessories such as a nice belt, wallet and watch. Sure they don’t seem to matter much to you, but they speak volumes about you, which is sometimes important.
10. Don’t play in your head over and over that this date has to work. Totally get rid of any feelings like that. Despite what you think, it doesn’t, it’s just a night out, and that’s all it will be until things get more serious over time. If things work out in the end of the date, that’s awesome, good for you! But as I already said, you need to not stress yourself, relax and be cool. Your date will spot any signs of desperation on your part, and this can be used against you. This is why before you arrive on a date, you should do everything you possibly can to make sure you feel relaxed.
11. Being the guy, it’s really up to you if you wish to bring flowers along with you. Sure it’s nice but remember she’s gonna be holding them all night on the date, lugging the things around, and make sure its not a lot.
12. Whatever you do, don’t think you are going to ‘tango’ with your date, on the first date, before you even know anything about each other. Any real smart person would know ‘tangoing’ is a very sacred action between two people that are supposed to be super close before even thinking about doing, if either of them try to pull moves that indicate they want to ‘tango’ you need to realize this person is attracted to your body, not you, and that’s how EVERY relationship crashes and burns. Sure it may be great at first but you will see your life decline and you wont feel loved like someone who loves YOU would be able to provide.
13. while you bathe, if you decide to bathe and not shower, take that spare time to come up with some ideas as to what you would like to ask your date and perhaps funny stories you can tell your date. No matter what, a date is about getting to know each other, so questions are normal, and awkward silences suck. Just picture the person you are going to meet and ask the questions in your head, may be easier to handle when the real time comes and come out more easily.
14. Even this early on in the dating stage, just like ‘tangoing’ you need to remember there’s no way in heck that you ‘love’ this person after the first date, you may like them, but it will take a lot more time together before those feelings become real. So stay away from being foolish, if you say ‘I love you’ they can easily use that to use you.
15. Keep in mind that communicating is less then 20% verbal. While you try to be cute don’t send the wrong vibes to your date. If you try to hard it might come across wanting something, and do I need to repeat the whole ‘tangoing’ talk again? We are adults now, so don’t act childish. Watch just what you do and how you do it and you can avoid problems. I’m not going to sugar coat this, main reason males rape females is because they expose themselves or they give them the body language they want to ‘tango’ because they were trying to be too cute, and the female is like ‘Woah what?! No! I didn’t mean that’ and for the men with little self will, will not take that nicely. So be careful with just what you do.
