You are excited about going on your first date and feeling nervous and anxious all at the same time. There are some red flags though that you should be aware of when you are out on a first date. Everyone is different so you can’t expect the same from every person you go on a date with. There are, though, some general set guidelines that everyone should follow and we should pay attention to them to avoid being hurt in the future.
Make sure the date is in a public place. On the first date, do not go home with your date or have the date at their place.Keep the date short to about 45 minutes as well. If your date is constantly pressuring you to go out somewhere private, be weary and cautious about that. Use your own transportation as well to get to the date so that way you can leave when you want if something seems out of place.
If the date cancels or is late, then it’s normal as things do in fact come up. However, if they constantly cancel or are extremely late, then they probably don’t have much interest in a potential relationship or might not be so interested in you.
Another thing to keep a close eye on is if the information in the profile doesn’t add up. If they don’t act like anything they described themselves as. If they use a lot of drugs or drink a lot, especially on the date, you should end the date quickly. If they show up for the date drunk then you should just get out of there. You don’t want to end up with an alcoholic or drug addict. During the date if he or she is looking around at others then you should take note that they are probably not looking for a relationship. Also talks about fate or destiny mentioned often by your date should be taken with caution as although love at first site exists, this could come off as someone being desperate to just find anyone. Same goes if they try rushing into a relationship, for example, by saying that they love you too soon.
One thing not to do as well is to leave your belongings unattended. You never know who you are out there with and if he or she is asking for too much personal information, you should try getting out of there as something isn’t right. If they ask for money, even for a charity or a sick relative, this is a clear red flag especially on a first date.
Some final points to mention about red flagged dates are a bit common sense. A rude person who is pressuring you for sex is a clear sign of a red flag. If they are constantly coming on to you on a first date or even being rude to you, a waitress, or speaks very bad about their family and friends, this is not the right person for you. If he or she is always complaining about his or her life, just imagine how much they will complain about you in a relationship. The point is to just listen to your intuition and try to detect a red flag with a clear mind and know when to just get out of a bad date.
