One would think that everyone knows how to behave and what to do when making their online dating profile, but because of many new editions of online dating books and other resources, it doesn’t seem like many are catching on. In order to attract clicks and messages on an online dating site, one must know how to make an effective and attractive profile.
Get to the point on your profile. Imagine that you have to pay for each word that you type into your profile. Be accurate and get to the point. Don’t tell your life story, but provide precise information that makes you stand out from other profiles.
Photos increase responses. Although it’s not necessary, if you want to increase your chances of being contacted, you should definitely consider placing a profile photo. Use a more recent photo instead of your nicest looking photo when you were 18. For guys, choose a decent photo and keep your shirt on. Girls should use a classy and professional photo, as choosing sexy photos will send the wrong message.
Use proper grammar and spelling. Make sure your English is correct in regards to spelling, grammar, and punctuation. It’s a good idea to have someone proofread your description and profile text.
Be honest about age and weight. Sooner or later, the intention is to meet face to face and your lies will be exposed. It’s okay to trim a year or two off your age, but don’t go writing that you are 10 years younger than you really are. If you are a bit overweight, say it in your profile and also let it be known that you are happy about it too.
Give only cell number. If providing your phone number either in your profile or to a potential date, only give your cell phone number. Many “strangers” on the web can track down a house number easily and you don’t want to expose such personal information to people whom you don’t know.
Meet at a public place. Make sure also that someone, such as a friend or family member, knows where you will be. Remember, the person you are going to meet is still an online stranger.
Don’t spend a lot of time online before meeting. Maybe two or three weeks at most will be enough time before taking the chance to go out and meet the person face to face. If you keep the relationship online for too long, the intimacy and inhibitions might be lost.
Don’t juggle too many people at one time. Try to be focused on one or two people you are really interested in. If you find someone, chances are both of you together will be removing your online dating profile.
Don’t go online dating at the office. Try investing in a cheap laptop or a used computer, or even a smartphone. Work is not a place to be online dating, especially when your data can be stored and tracked.
No sexual innuendos. You don’t understand a stranger’s sense of humor and can’t predict how they will act or take a sexual innuendo, whether you mean it intentionally or not. Make sure that direct communication is established to avoid any misunderstandings or wrong signs.
