When we women have been in a relationship for so long, we sometimes notice that the spark seems to flicker out from the relationship after a number of years have passed. We sometimes wonder why the men in our lives seem indifferent to our presence and tepid in showing their affection, when before it seemed that they could not keep their hands off of us. Sometimes, we even venture to ask them questions like 'Why do you not give me flowers anymore?' or 'Do I still look beautiful to you?'
What happened to the boys we once knew, the boys who swept us off our feet and promised us the world? When they grew up to be men, did they forget the sweet words they whispered in our ears and the romantic gestures that they used when they were wooing us?
Most of us believe that romance dies when the relationship reaches a number of years old. Instead of rekindling the romance in the relationship, some of us opt to just end it and look for someone new. And then the cycle begins once more.
The flames of passion may have grown cold, but this does not mean that the flames have died out. If we women choose to breathe new life into these flames, it is more than possible for us to revive the romance that we may have already thought to be lost.
In order to get the romance blooming in our relationship once again, we must first take a hard look at ourselves. When we face the mirror, are the images staring back at us the images of same women that our men first fell in love with? Oh, there could be some fine lines as well as some padding and sagging that comes naturally with aging, but aging does not mean the same as letting ourselves go. Maybe it is time to spruce up our looks again, perhaps by updating our wardrobes, losing some weight, getting a facial and sporting a new hairdo. Taking care of ourselves and keeping ourselves looking as young and as beautiful as we dare is something that our men will truly appreciate. It is like giving them a glimpse of the girl they first fell in love with.
Maybe we should also stop complaining too loudly, being cross with him all the time, or nagging at him. Our men might find it nice to be woken up in the morning with a kiss and a soft whisper telling them to open their eyes instead of being shaken so rudely with a reminder that they will be late for work. Also, gentle prodding may be more effective than complaining and nagging. After all, it is always nice to be asked nicely to do something rather than be yelled at.
We may also probably have to pay extra attention to his interests. Sitting with them while they watch their favorite sport on TV and even cheering their favorite teams on with them is something they will think sweet of us. If we do this regularly, they may even learn to fake gushing over the new killer shoes we have just bought or to show enthusiasm about the idea of going shopping with us.
Our mothers always say that the quickest way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Nothing perhaps is ever truer than this. Cooking a great meal for our guys and setting up candlelit dinners is always a staple for romance. Not only is it romantic, it shows them how much we care about their well-being.
Lastly, we should never stop touching them whenever we can. Touch is the best way to rekindle a dying romance. We could offer to give our men a relaxing massage. Or we could wear our prettiest dress and dance with our men cheek-to-cheek after a candlelit dinner. The intimacy that touching brings is a sure way to light the fire up once more.
Even if the romance seems dead in our eyes, we should never give up home. The passion is always there. All we need to do is to remember and to make our men remember as well.
