Choosing the right photo for your online dating profile can be pretty fun, but if you expect good responses then you better put up a good photo. Men will easily click the “next” button if they are not attracted to your photo or even worse, if you choose not to have a photo at all.
If you do not have a photo, you will not get responses. You might think that you want the guy to get to know you first before you show him what you look like or even think that he might be shallow if he isn’t attracted to your photo. The point is that you give totally different impressions when you choose to not submit a profile photo, such as you might come off as a scammer, a cheating wife trying not to get caught, or you might have something to hide. Guys do not want to find out what you are hiding so they will simply move on.
That being said, put a photo up, but make sure it is a real photo and recent one. Don’t post photos of Pamela Anderson or other celebrities or photos of you 10 years ago when you were much slimmer and skinnier. If you give your potential date a wrong image of you, then this will just cause more awkward and disappointing moments during the first date and perhaps you will give him the impression that you are a liar.
I am sure you have great group photos, but leave them out. You might think you are the best looking in a shot with your friends, but what if the guy thinks that your best friend is far better looking only to find out that you are the less attractive one. Next! Also, don’t post photos that you take at arms length from your cell phone. These will not come out so good so it is better to go to for example a local park or town monument and ask a bystander or a friend to take a nice photo of you.
Many single moms enjoy posting photos of their children, but think twice about this. Your photos are publically available even if they aren’t your profile photo. You will also be posting other personal information so it won’t be difficult for someone online to locate which school your child goes to and who knows what could happen. Be safe and protect your children by leaving their photos out of your dating profile.
Glasses and other accessories are glamorous and a very important piece of your daily apparel, but take off the shades in your profile photo. Your eyes will tell your potential date much more about you than hiding them and risking a potential “next”.
Finally, the most important, do not post sexy poses or revealing photos. Leave your clothes on. Any sexy photos will attract the wrong audience and you will come off as someone who just wants sex, or even a scammer or Russian mail order bride. Be professional and be classy in your profile photo. Remember, this will make or break your responses and success in finding your potential partner.
