It's Easier Than You Think
If you're like most women, you've spent a good part of your life waiting for boys to ask you out. First it was prom, then college parties, and then dinner dates after work. But now that you are newly single and “ready to mingle,” putting yourself out there isn't easy. No wonder your last crush, a grown man, seemed a bit nervous when he finally approached you. So here's some advice on how to ask a boy out.
How to Approach a Guy for a Date
Let's start with some good news. These days, many men actually find it sexy and very attractive when women ask men out. In fact, some even complain that more women don't! Why is it so appealing to them? First, it signals that the women is confident, a highly desirable trait. The second reason is more selfish but relatable: no man wants to put himself out there, in a vulnerable position, just to have the woman of his dreams smirk and say, "no thanks."
Sound familiar? This is probably exactly what is holding you back from asking Mr. Handsome on a date. You know he's been looking at you a lot lately, and you know he appreciates confident women. But you play the scenario in your mind and doubts start to flood your brain.
Ladies, let's put it this way: as romantic as unrequited love seems, you deserve to take action and be in charge of your future. That includes asking him out. If he likes you, amazing. If he doesn't, then at least you know. Life will go on.
Okay, so now you have courage. But you're still wondering how to ask a boy out. Your tactics depend on who he is. If he's someone you already know well, then just ask him out casually to dinner. At the meal, start making the conversation pleasant but more personal than before. Try and keep the conversation moving by asking him questions about himself while offering some insight into your personality as well. Guys respect confident women, but showing a little vulnerability just adds a new exciting dimension to your already complex, alluring personality. He's intrigued, and you’ve got him hooked!
If he's someone you only know casually, don't sweat it. Just find ways to "accidentally" bump into him (but don't stalk him!) through similar hobbies or friends. With each repeated interaction, be yourself. Ask him a couple questions and show that you're genuinely interested in what he has to say. Make him wonder about you and soon he will feel that he wants to know more than just the surface. Once you have him curious, ask him to do something very innocent (coffee, a jog in the park, or something else you know he enjoys) the next time you "bump" into him. The rest is a piece of cake.
Now that you know how to approach a guy for a date, stop reading and think of how great it will feel when you finally do it! Why leave your fate (and love life) in someone else's hands? Be assertive and ask a boy out today.
