After a recent article some of you may be wondering… “Body language? Can body language really be important during a first date?” Well yes, yes it can.
No matter the interaction, body language is severely important, even in dating. To prove this, despite out verbal fluency and such, many experts characterize our human interaction of communication as very largely non-verbal. Actually, its only 20% verbal. That should get you thinking that we are serious here! I just sort of recently read a pretty good report on how body language can totally end an excellent job interview, it is important guys and gals. What was interesting was that the tips and guidelines in this report held true to that of advice for dating behavior that I read from dating experts. And the reason for this is because the first date can be considered to be like a job interview. The point of the first ‘interview’ is to get the ‘job’ afterwards, and or the second date or sealing the deal with your date. So it all makes sense and hopefully you will understand why body language is important.
So, with all that in mind, let me give you some tips of my own on non-verbal bads. It’s my advice to avoid these all on your first date or really on any date. But you need to remember that not everything will be as it looks, some of these may just because their necks or back hurt naturally or something like that, so its not always 100% accurate, but it gives you a little idea of whats going on. So here’s how some basic body language is often perceived by others:
- If your arms are folded across your chest is often seen as a defensive pose, or at best, it will be seen as reserved or uninterested in the conversation. That or you are offending them and they will probably beat you up!
- If you stand with your hands in your pockets that sometimes suggests a lack of confidence, or unease.
-Sitting with your legs crossed while your shaking one leg or wiggling your foot would suggest nervousness or some discomfort, or if you’re like me you just do it for the sake of doing it!
-Now, if you just stare at the floor blankly, sort of like you’re day dreaming, it expresses a profound amount of lack of interest in you or the conversation.
-To rub and or touch your nose, no matter how cute or big your nose is, during a response suggests that you’re probably not being the most honest you can be.
-If you rub the back of your head and or neck will suggest you are bored with whats going on, or your neck hurts.
-Pointing your feet or other body parts, of if you lean towards the door will suggest that you want to end the date as quickly as you can, like in a flee like panic sort of thing, or you’re just naturally facing the door.
-Slouching will make it look like your nervous, that you aren’t prepared for the date, wishing you were somewhere else, which will make your date feel pretty useless.
So, like I said, yeah, sometimes your nose really with itch, and maybe you like staring at that floor because its texture is just so dang awesome it can’t be avoided. The point here is to be mindful of the body language you give to people here, it will make them think things and just mess with the date one way or another. Your body isn’t your mouth, and what you do can easily express your inner thoughts.
