I’ve recently heard a story from my female friend who had been in a relationship with her boyfriend for almost a year and a half. She told me that he suddenly broke up with her. And he did it in a most coward way – by an SMS with a simple text: “It’s over”. When she tried to ring him up several times, he didn’t answer and keeps ignoring her since then.
When she told me this story, I’ve tried to find out what things made her ex-boyfriend come to such an unpleasant conclusion that they shouldn’t be together anymore (I don’t want to focus attention to the fact that you should never break up in such a way, because it’s impolite and sneaky). She couldn’t tell me anything that she thought could make him do it, however after our conversation I found out something most of you, both guys and gals, are often missing.
What I’m speaking about is called The little things.
A typical relationship consists of several periods. In the first period you get to know each other, discover a lot of information about each other, notice things about your partner. Generally, we can say that you’re having positive emotions by spending time together. And by contacting online or via cell.
However, after some time when you get to know each other better, the emotional lever lowers from the hill of the mountain to its center. You allow your partner to enter your comfort zone and vice versa your partner does the same. It’s perfectly fine, everyone does the same. But often when the two of you enter the next period in your relationship, these little things we stated earlier suddenly disappear. He stops sending you flowers, she sends less romantic SMS, you don’t go out as often as you used to. This is when the everyday life routine comes into place and breaks a lot of couples.
Many of you tend to forget that after a month, six months or a year you still need to surprise your partner, to make him/her feel unique, feel that you need them.
And you can see some other things that can show you your partner’s attitude to you and to your relationship:
- Their actions matching up with their words. In brief, what they say and what they do. These too usually don’t match if something is wrong.
- Sincerity of their tone in conversations
- Interest to spend time together (or how much time you spend together vs how much time he/she spends with friends)
