Is he cheating on you emotionally?

Is Thinking About Cheating the Same as Cheating?

 Most often couples consider cheating as a physical action that involves intimacy with another person.  However, emotional infidelity is a very real component of cheating that often occurs before the actual act is committed. So what is emotional infidelity?  Basically, emotional infidelity is a person's mental and emotional contemplation of another person sexually before acting on it!  Generally, emotional cheating can be as harmless as a casual flirt with a platonic friend or as damaging as an obsession over a co-worker or cyber fling.  

Granted this may sound perplexing, but it actually depends on how opting that person is to acts upon their emotions and the effect this desire has on their relationship. This is when simply thinking about cheating can inundate your daily routine and thoughts that is more damaging to your partner than cheating!  Having a better understanding of what is emotional infidelity and what' not; will help you see the sign of emotional cheating before it gets out of hand!  Here is some information that can help you discern if your emotional thoughts will lead to more.

How Does Emotional Cheating Start?

This means that someone can contemplate cheating but never act upon this desire; but often day dreams and make time to become closer to a specific friend.  It's this continual thought pattern that can easily become an obsession and eventually full blown affair.

Normally, emotional cheating will start from an unintentional latent desire to be with a person you see regularly at work, school; on the bus etc.  However the most common invocation of emotional cheating comes from the Internet and social sites.   With today's technology having a cyber relationship can be more destructive to a marriage or partnership than catching them in the act of cheating!This is because the act of emotional cheating is committed anonymously online, which makes it much easier to disclose personal desires and sexual fantasies with a stranger.  Plus the development of an emotional attachment to a cyber-friend can accrue anywhere there's a computer and internet.  This means that at work, home, or on your cell phone you can bud a relationship with unfaithful intentions.

What are the Signs of Emotional Infidelity?

There are a number of signs that can indicate emotional unfaithfulness; however the most common signs of emotional infidelity are listed below:

• Sharing intimate details about your marriage or partnership with your "Friend"! This often occurs with a cyber relationship cheating or a close friend of the opposite sex.
• Having special lunches or dinners with your "friend" without involving your spouse or partner. This often happens with a co-worker or close friend or "EX"
• Desiring more time alone with your "Friend"
• Password protecting your email account, computer login, files and even cell phone.
• Allowing your spouse or partner to wait while you spend more time with your "Friend"
• Maintaining an open line of communication with an "EX" where you engage in intimate conversation of your pass sexual activity with that "EX"

In a perfect world, being in a monogamous emotional relationship means that both people are focused and totally committed to each other despite outside influences.   Unfortunately we, live in world where our dreams, thoughts and actions can lead us down the road to infidelity and a slue of broken relationships and vows.

In the end no one is free from their thoughts and latent desires! That is until you're able to overcome the drive to find an emotionally intimate connection with someone other than their partner or spouse.   Being aware of this will help you put those emotional cheating thoughts to rest and find ways to avoid being in that position in the first place!