Then, “Grenade,” Bruno Mar’s song, came on my iTunes. Ilove the sound of the song, but the lyrics are insane. Paraphrasing, “I’d catch a grenade for you, stand in front of a train for you…but you won’t do the same for me.” Huh? Is he kidding?
One of the problems that befalls many relationships is one person thinks the other needs to show their love in a particular way, or the same way as they do.
If you need compliments and complain because you don’t get them, I invite you to search your inner self to discover why you need the affirmations. Then, when you understand the hidden truths, go and get what you want. Sit on his lap and ask him, when you are feeling pretty, “Do you like how I look?” Or, when you’re naked with him and you know he’s into you, ask, “Am I sexy?” but in a playful, sexy way. You’ll actually get a more honest response.
You can also simply tell him that, “…as silly as it might seem to you, I’m a girl and I really like it when you tell me I’m pretty (or whatever compliments you need to hear). It would make me so happy if you told me those things once in a while.”
Men like simple instructions so they can get it right. And you can tell him you understand he doesn’t think that way (like a girl) so is it okay to remind him once in a while?
If you want to create a better relationship than you’ve ever had, you need to know the Secrets about men that I discovered after two years of studying and interviewing men. It’s the foundation of every good relationship. Only a hand full of women know these Secrets and they are the relationships you admire. Trust me, I’ve been researching this for over a dozen years. The Secrets are absolutely essential to any great relationship.
