So, the first date went awesomely well and the day has come to an end. So now the question arises! Will there be a second date or not?
That’s right folks, this one isn’t about the ‘first’ dates and such, now it’s the second date. When you were preparing for the first date, men and women would usually like to tend to be more focused towards solely making a good first impression. But as we all should know by now, you never get a second chance at making a good first impression.
Of course making the first impression is important but so is knowing how you’ll secure that second date if everything went well and you both decided a second is a good idea. To make it past the first date and onto the second date is the sign that says, “ Well hey now, we got past the first date and want to make a second, perhaps there’s some potential here for something that may sprout to become something huge” and it’s true, now that you have moved to date number two with this person chances are it CAN sprout to something great.
So to help you guys (and girls of course) along on your second date planning and making, here’s some tips to help:
Advice for the Men:
-During the first date you should have shown genuine interest in her. Now that’s a duh moment but who knows what other ‘dating games’ there are that exists. Now at this point you should be asking her more questions than she has asked you. Anything she has to say you should listen carefully too and respond to her with a follow-up question to show further interest. Learn to be genuinely interested in what other people have to say rather then planning what you want to say next.
-Okay well this one is about the first date but it can be brought onto the second as well, and that is during the first date you should always focus on the positive topics. Seems easy right? Well WRONG! You’d be surprised just how much you talk in a day that ends up negative without you even knowing! But in general you should always avoid the topics such as politics, religion or anything that seems you two don’t agree completely on. As the man you should always talk about what SHE’S interested in and keep her and everything light hearted. If you need to complain, do so in the mirror so you see how ridiculous you look.
-Always when on a date, whether its date number one to date number a million and one you should always compliment her! But make sure you don’t go overboard with them. Anything more than three compliments is being a little too excessive. I didn’t watch the show myself but I heard about it, it was some episode of something called Millionaire Matchmaker, and that one guy was doing GREAT until he just kept telling his date over and over, like 10 times, how beautiful she was. Now, see, THAT scared her away. Excessive compliments can truly change someone’s view of you from good to bad. So just keep it to small sincere ones that aren’t repeated.
-You need to start being inclusive at this point if you weren’t at first. Would have been more epic if you were on the first date, but if not that’s okay, start it now. If it’s really that obvious that your date and you are having a great time and she mentions something interesting like one of the most funnest things shes ever done in her life, something she may think you may not respond the best to, at this point you need to comment like “that sounds fun, let’s do it sometime” or something like that, to show her even now you keep showing her interest and it would give her a positive reaction from you, which would get a positive reaction from her as well.
-Now, this one I’m ashamed I have to write about because I would have loved to know that every guy was a gentleman and kept the woman’s feelings at heart even when she didn’t fancy you that much, but a lot of guys don’t and don’t realize the emotional pain they put on the women by doing this. If you were genuinely enjoying your first date with her then tell her at the end of that date if you’d like to see her again or not. Women hate to be left hanging as much as you would be. Women like it more when the men are honest and straight up with them, they will respect you more and you may end up with a friend, to do otherwise would show how cowardly you really are and how much of a disgrace you are to mankind.A Good Second Date: Advice for Men
