Yay, on the third of ten mistakes that men make in general. Not all, but most do. This one is asking the woman for permission or looking to her for some approval on a subject. Now, honestly, this is okay to an extent. If you think doing something may not make her happy, you really should see is it has her approval first. Relationships should not make either person mad or uncomfortable in anyway. So when in doubt, ask her. However there is a such thing as too much. Once in awhile is fine to be on the safe side, but when you fuse approval with everything you do, things start to get a little pathetic. You need to remember that women like feeling special, but not like a princess. It needs to be given on doses. It is indeed a horrible idea if you just keep trying to do things to see if she approves of what you are doing. Be the man and wear the pants in the relationship as you should. No, you don’t need to ask her if you can go buy something with money you earned for the house. No, you don’t need to ask her if you can go out with the boys (unless you two have something planned) just let her know you’re going out, you’ll stay faithful and when you’ll return.
Of course, if you do this expect it in return. But back to the subject here, don’t kiss up. It’s pathetic and many women find this annoying and no where near attractive. Don’t treat your lady wrong or someone else will treat her right and take her from you, but don’t be a slave willingly. Women get annoyed with the constant nagging when men seek their approval for something. You should leave the approval seeking to the woman to you, not you to the woman. As guys, we enjoy it the other way around, we like it when they make us feel important and powerful as they come to us for permission or approval, but it is just wrong when you go to her for it in large amounts.
If you don’t believe me, go to the nearest lady friend you may have and ask her if she finds it attractive when men kiss up to her. Ask her if she enjoys it when men go to her constantly for permission or approval. Ask her if she likes being nagged about things that the man can handle on their own. Chances are she won’t find any of that attractive. She may at first, she may even have fun with it, but as soon as it goes on for too long the annoyance will sink in so fast that you won’t know what hit you. You need to be a man. Women like the CONFIDENT men, not the ones so unsure that they go to a girl to see if they did the right thing. Women are attracted to confident men, and by asking for permission and approval that will just be the total opposite of being confident. You need to at LEAST appear confident, if you really need approval to survive, just do what you would and just see how she reacts. If she isn’t happy then what you did wasn’t right in her eyes and don’t do it again and tell her you won’t. If she seems to not mind then there you go, she doesn’t mind and may be a little more attracted to you too. So guys, please, just be confident and don’t go to her for every single piece of permissible stuff that you can. Good luck guys and spread the word. Every man should read these for his own sake.
