We all know it happens. A guy falls in love and needs to pour the gifts and goodies on the girl. Ever watch that Spongebob Squarepants episode where Mr. Krabs falls in love with that boating school teacher and started wasting all of his money on her when all she wanted was a walk in the park? Think of that. It actually happens to be a real life life lesson, no lie. The woman does not care for what you give her before you are married to one. Marriage will change that, but we are talking about dating and trying to win the heart of a lady with gifts. Think about it. You took a girl out to a nice restaurant, got her a box of chocolates and some nice flowers and by the end of the date you just didn’t cut it. Even after you did so much for her and did all you could to be giving. And then you see her with someone a few days later that doesn’t even amount to how you were treating her. So what is wrong here? It is that you were giving too much and not focusing on what mattered. Well that sucks, doesn’t it? So how can you make sure this doesn’t happen again?
When you give gifts as you are trying to get her to like you, all it tells her is that you don’t think she will like you for who you are, and thus you are hoping that the gifts will show her how much you love her. Okay, so, you have gifts to show her YOUR love. What ever happened to YOU showing your love? It is actually natural to get turned down after you poured gifts on them because of this reason. You need to balance it. Wait till she likes you for who you are before giving her little gifts here and there. When you are just full of good intentions, to the ladies that comes across as being insecure and over-compensation and even some weak attempts at some minor manipulation. Like a ‘Well I gave you this and that, why can’t you do this and that for me?’ sort of deal. They don’t like that. So to avoid it you need to show your love in non-material ways. It is pretty simple really, but may be new to you. Don’t waste your money on a girl that you don’t even know will last with you. You let how you two are together be the deciding factor of if she will stay with you, once you believe she will is when you can get her a thing or two on occasions with a note or saying you love her.
Once you are married giving your lady gifts is probably a good idea. Obviously not everyday but if you two were together enough to get married then the two of you know your love for each other and that means your woman would know that when you give her things it is only because you love her and nothing else. So hold back on the giving until marriage and do you and your lady a favor and just show her your love your way, not through items. After all, items only last so long, flowers die, chocolates get eaten and a dinner only lasts an hour or two. Your love could last forever. So treat it as such, all she wants is together time that can mean getting closer, she doesn’t care for gifts when she has you. Remember the Spongebob Squarepants episode or any other that are like it. Learn from it. Learn from your own mistakes and learn from your friends mistakes. Don’t think the fault doesn’t lie within you, because more often then not the main problem in a relationship is yourself, not your loved one. Learn to recognize it and act on it before something bad and regretful happens.
So good luck guys and keep all that in mind. It can easily be the deciding factor of whether a date will work or not. And obviously you want it to work.
