Alright, listen up guys. One of the worst and most desperate things you can attempt is trying to get the woman to like you. It’s what most guys do when they spot a lady upon the horizon that they are interested in, only to find out she really is not interested in you. The man will then try to convince thus lady that she does like him, when she doesn’t. Remember when you were younger and your parents made you eat your greens, saying that you will like them and you didn’t? Yeah, those were not fun times, and that is what you are forcing on the lady. Just face it, it is impossible to change a woman’s mind, not only because they are stubborn (Sorry ladies that will read this!) but also because when it comes to attraction, they do not function the same way that you and I do.
You may tell her ‘Well I’m good looking, got a great smile and I’m filthy rich’ well she’s probably thinking- or even saying ‘Well who cares?’ It is not always about looks for women. I know when it comes to us men, that is sadly one of the first things we look for, good looks, THEN we try to get to know them. Well for the women, they would want to get to know us first in a friendly way, looks barely matter. Now, don’t get me wrong, in their younger years looks matter to everyone, but as you mature you begin to realize there is A LOT (let me stress that a few times: A LOT .. A LOT) more than just good looks that play a part in relationships. So, no amount of ‘logic’ or ‘reasoning’ will get her to change her mind. If she doesn’t feel anything special between you two then that’s that, you can’t logic your way to getting her to suddenly like you. You just end up without the girl in the end and you end up looking pathetically desperate.
Let’s go back to out childhood days for a bit to further push this subject into all your brains. Did you like it when the bully forced you off a swing or forced you to give them something that you didn’t want to give? Did you like it when your parents made you clean up your toys or when your parents didn’t approve of you drawing on the walls? Did you like it when they made you eat the food you didn’t like and not give you more dessert in the end? I’m going to guess you said no to all those, and for good reason too. When you try to force something on a person they only react the opposite of what you are trying to force on them. Do you think you would like those yummy green beans if you were forced to eat it or if you moved onto new food at your own pace without being pressured and bit into them when you were ready? I’d assume the latter. Things take time, you need patience. Don’t force things on someone, more so if you like them, that only gives them the opposite reaction of what you are shooting for. Not to mention if she says yes after all the begging, do you really think it would feel special? No, it would feel like a pity date, and that’s what it is, nothing but a pity date to get you to shut up so you stop annoying her. Sad but true. You need to cool your jets and takes things slow. No relationship is as successful as those that start off as friendships, and that happens to be a proven fact. Work with her, not against her.
Just remember, at first she may not like you in a romantic sense, but you may be friend material to her. This isn’t the end, anything can sprout between you two if you just truly be her friend. Don’t use her friendship to just get her to fall for you. Be sincere in that friendship and see what happens next, for all you know she may ask YOU out instead.
So, my advice to all you men, if you see someone you like, don’t try to force her to like you. Simply ask her out on a friendly date, telling her she seems like someone you would like to be friends with. If all goes well and you two become friends, perhaps she will see enough of your qualities and good sides to actually start liking you. Until then though, do NOT try convincing a woman that they like you, you will only crash and burn. Good luck guys! More on the way!
