Confidence, not arrogance, is the key to getting a woman. Now that doesn’t exactly mean getting a stable relationship that will last forever, but being confident will get you more dates and eventually you may just find someone you can spend the rest of your life with. So, what was it that confidence meant then? No, it does not mean never taking no for an answer. No, it doesn’t mean sweeping the girl off her feet quite literally. And once more, no, it doesn’t mean taking them to Paris for the weekend on some super expensive trip.
So what on earth do they mean by confidence being the key to getting dates? The truth is that being as everyone is different, there’s a lot of different answers to that question. Every female that I have asked answered in their own way. Some liked some things more then others, whereas some said it depended on just the type of guy they were with at the time. Which keeps confidence in the eye of the beholder. And beyond that, confidence can sometimes be misinterpreted into something else. If you tread to far on one side one may think you’re some sap that thinks he’s cool and if you tread to far on the other side they may think you are one of them no good guys that should be avoided at all costs.
The point here is that it’s not so much that its all about confidence itself, but about it’s opposite, fear. A man scared or in fear is no more attractive to a lady than a rotting pumpkin. Fear is the leading emotion that truly defines a man. If you are seen as someone who is fearful it only shows the ladies that you don’t know your own value, not being sure of what you really can and can’t do, lacking the feeling of self worth and suffering in determination. To be fearful is no less then having no confidence in yourself. You will appear weak and exposed.
So, back to our confidence. After some interviewing and talking with some ladies I’ve noticed that it would seem those that are confident in themselves and what they can do, they seem to carry with them self assuredness which is, of course, in no way arrogance. It’s a state of mind and body where the confident man feels sure about himself and his abilities, knowing what he’s all about, knowing in his head just what he can really do, what he may be able to do and just what he may fail at but willing to take that risk. How women see it, a confident man is at the helm of his destiny, his future, his career and his day. He is at the controls of it, telling them what do to with his life, making his life as he wants it. And so to many woman this feat is awfully attractive.
The reason this seems to do the trick with the ladies is because a woman is looking for a partner that can not only match her mentally but just as much physically, they want someone that can keep driving them forward and upward in life, someone with vitality and ambition in their life, a man that can pass this self assuredness onto her and give her that same confidence that made her attracted to you in the first place. A man that is comfortable with themselves is seen as sexy because they are confident in themselves. HE is in control of his life and HE is able to make what decisions he needs to in his life, and he is able to make the right ones, the good decisions. HE is the one that’s confident in just what choices he makes, and being as he chose you, or well, you were attracted to him because of his confidence, but still, he passes that feeling of confidence and the feeling of being special onto you and that’s why a female would be attracted to a male of this standard. One that is confident shows confidence in all aspects of his life. And being picked by the right man, or vice versa, can really be a thrill.
