Dating Survivals

An Age Old Set of Circumstances, The Songs Have Said it All

Surviving infidelity isn't an easy thing to do, but when someone decides to put you in that position by cheating; you have no choice but to survive it, now do you? Whether you are the cheater or the one who's been hurt through a partner's infidelity; the sad truth is that you will have consequences to deal with regardless of who's to blame.  When you have been in a committed relationship, living through betrayal can really tear your entire world apart because you've placed all of your trust and energy into that one person.

Understandably it's difficult to even consider moving past the shattered trust and feeling of being let down; but it is necessary whether you decide to move on and begin anew in your life and especially if you want to repair the relationship that has been.  It's interesting that given time many who left a partner over infidelity will say they wish they had had better support to stay and work things out.  Few who have stayed, wish they'd have left.  It all depends on your perception of the value of an existing relationship.  Is is worth the difficulty to mend?

Once the Truth is Out, the Work Has Just Begun
Surviving infidelity often causes even more stress than you may have experienced when you initially confirmed your suspicions that your partner was indeed being unfaithful. It is important to be aware of this fact because the pressure and burden is not one that you should endure alone. There are so many effects of infidelity. It affects those around you including family, kids and friends. There is plenty of assistance for those dealing with and going through the entire ordeal of surviving infidelity. A positive outlook and a lot of support are needed to weather the crisis. You'll get through it if you make sure you have both.Nobody wants to play the blame game, although it's a hard thing not to do when it comes to the subject of disloyalty, cheating and surviving infidelity. More often than not people believe that marriage or relationship problems start with cheating, but that is not usually the case at all. Many of the common problems experienced by many couples including a lack of intimacy, poor communication or a sense of growing apart are all contributing factors to why people chose to be unfaithful. It's often a no fault problem.  No one person set the circumstances into motion that led to a spouse's decision to stray.  But there they were.  This in no way justifies cheating, as it's never ok to betray someone's trust; especially that of your partner or spouse. The reason to consider any problems that may be the fore-runner to an act of infidelity is to simply understand one of the most common reasons that it does occurs.
Virtual Cheating, It's An All New Game, Same Old Lack of Rules
Infidelity is becoming an epidemic in the modern world, especially with the anonymity of the internet as people seem to think that cyber-sex isn't really cheating because there is no actual physical involvement. They also are misled into believing that chatting online is equally harmless, but don't kid yourself as flirting and talking dirty is often the prelude to having a full-on affair. Guaranteed! Be aware of what you may be inviting into your relationship if you constantly escape reality via a so called undamaging online rendezvous.There is plenty of online help whether you are the victim or instigator of infidelity, so get help before things get so out of hand that you truly cannot salvage your relationship or marriage. Above all else, either way do try to put yourself in your partner's shoes.  And when you inventory the value of an existing relationship consider that history has experienced many turnarounds in finances, war and love!