Self-esteem: Which means having a favorable opinion of yourself – is another basic emotional nee. One psychologist has defined it as a “conviction that one is competent to live and worthy of living”. Without self-esteem, a person is likely to act in self –destructive ways.
People who think well of themselves act very differently. They like themselves and find it natural for other people to like them too. They also do things that are good themselves. When Jonah, who has a positive attitude toward himself, started seeing Barbi, all went well. But then Barbi began to break dates at the last minute. She also became very critical of Jonah and wanted him to change all sorts of things about himself, Rather than going along with Barbi and trying to change himself, Jonah felt annoyed. He decided that he was a worth while person just as he was and that he would find someone just as he was and that he would find someone who could appreciate him.
High self-esteem, or a positive estimate of one’s worth, is characterized by self confidence, independence, assertiveness, self-respect, pride, self-acceptance, and expressiveness. Low self-esteem, or a negative estimate of one’s worth, is demonstrated by submissiveness, passivity, helplessness, timidity, self doubting, self-punishing, and feelings of inferiority, powerlessness, and unworthiness.
People who think well of themselves act very differently. They like themselves and find it natural for other people to like them too. They also do things that are good themselves. When Jonah, who has a positive attitude toward himself, started seeing Barbi, all went well. But then Barbi began to break dates at the last minute. She also became very critical of Jonah and wanted him to change all sorts of things about himself, Rather than going along with Barbi and trying to change himself, Jonah felt annoyed. He decided that he was a worth while person just as he was and that he would find someone just as he was and that he would find someone who could appreciate him.
High self-esteem, or a positive estimate of one’s worth, is characterized by self confidence, independence, assertiveness, self-respect, pride, self-acceptance, and expressiveness. Low self-esteem, or a negative estimate of one’s worth, is demonstrated by submissiveness, passivity, helplessness, timidity, self doubting, self-punishing, and feelings of inferiority, powerlessness, and unworthiness.
Psychologists cite four sources of self esteem:
- Power is a sense that comes from having the ability to influence the circumstances of your life in important ways.
- Connectedness is the feeling of satisfaction that arises from the acceptance, attention, and affection of others.
- Standards are role models or reference points that provide you with examples that help you establish meaningful values and goals.
- Uniqueness is the special sense of self that comes from acknowledging qualities that make you special and different.
