Saturday, August 20, 2011

Where is Romance in your Love?

What brings two people immensely close to each other is the tender yet deep emotional, sexual and spiritual recognition and regard for the value of another person and relationship called ‘Romantic Love’
Extremely powerful yet unexplainable, Romantic Love sometimes tends to generate deep sufferings when frustrated, it’s like an emotional storm that sometimes becomes just impossible to control but where it brings an ocean of profound longings and desires, it also brings with it some unexplainable moments of fulfillment, satisfaction, ecstasy and joy.
“Someone we love enters the room. Our eyes and heart light up. We look at this person. We feel a growing feeling of joy within us. We reach out and touch their hand. We feel happy and fulfilled.”
When a man and woman encounter each other in midst of love they seek intimate contact. In a general sense, love is a response to something we intimately value. Romantic love is the experience of joy in the presence of a loved one, joy in being close to a loved one, and joy in our interaction with a loved one.
Romantic love can generate many powerful feelings. It can provide a profound ecstasy, and a deep suffering when frustrated. To some people, romantic love is irrational. Romantic love can seem like an emotional storm.
Despite these experiences, people are still drawn to something they seldom reach. It is a profound longing. A desire that is difficult to extinguish. Romantic love is not something that must crumble when faced with practical realities. Romantic love is not something just for youth.
Romantic love is the desire to be seen, valued and understood, when we encounter a person, strange but seems mysteriously familiar, who notices us, look at us and value us, we experience a strong feeling of contact with that person. When we start feeling loved, we start showing them the real us, the one hidden inside the core, the real self, that we unleash only in front of that person.
Romantic love makes us see each other in a unique way; we experience each other in a deeper and more complete way than any other relationship, which evokes feelings of warmth and spiritual attachment.
However, it is very important to understand the movement of rhythm and energy in both individuals involved in a relationship.  This rhythm and energy is deeply connected to whether or not romantic love actually ignites or endures. Rhythm and energy can be observed in our speech patterns, emotional responses and body language. Closely related is the observation that some people are naturally more or less energetic than others – -physically, emotionally or intellectually. Some people move, feel, think faster or slower depending on the circumstance and their environment. Some people are impulsive or impatient. The person who is naturally fast and eagerly explores life may feel chronically impatient with a person who savors life at a slower pace. The person with a less fevered pace may feel chronically pressured. It’s always important to enjoy, accept and appreciate the differences between two persons to keep the relationship happy and healthy.
Romantic love gives birth to a personal universe, share by two people. This universe can be shared with silent understandings, unspoken words, humorous signals, and focused glances.  Conversations and physical contact become wondrous, exciting and safe.